TOP Tips on How to controll Anger.
Now we know there are times when the worst of us comes out, but with that said it’s worth while knowing how to controll our inner self. If you are quick to anger and you tend to act out your anger in destructive ways, put these strategies to practice.
1. Recognize and accept your anger
- when you feel angry, be curious about your reaction. Ask yourself
- what does it do to you physically? Does it make you clench your fist? Does it give you a headache?
- How do you express it. (Do you become sarcastic? Snap at people ? Stay hostile, cutiimg things you later regret?
- Why did you get so angry? Was it because your feelings were hurt. we’re you frightened or insulted?
2. Take responsibility for your anger
Recognize that it is your choice whether or not to become angry. Once you accept responsibility for your feelings, thoughts and behavior, you are less likely to react explosively.
3. Talk about your anger
Verbally expressing how you feel is better than acting your anger out and it will make you feel more empowered in your personal relationships.
4. COOL Off with time, you may understand what set you off and decide whether action is necessary or not. If your anger doesn’t go away or you find yourself getting heated and irritated all over again, try to cool off by:
- Counting to ten.
- Take deep breaths and focus on your breathing.
- Removing yourself physically from the scene of the conflict to a quiet place or, going for a walk.
- Calming yourself by visualizing a serene setting or experience, where you feel peaceful and unthreathned
- Talking yourself to a more calmer or more positive place
- Looking at the best that triggered your anger form another perspective, say , that of the other person involved.
5. Learn appropriate ways to express anger. An anger management course or a therapist may help you to learn to defuse your rage. Inability to deal with anger is often tied to unresolved hurts from the past. Discussing your feelings with a professional can help you to untangle these emotions.
Learning to recognise and express your anger appropriately is the best way to keep it from eating into your life.
Bottling up your anger can leaf to higher level of homocystein, a chemical linked to heart disease.